The winter holidays can be a time of joy and togetherness, but for many, the season can bring grief far more intense than any other time of the year. Those of us who have lost family or friends (particularly during this time) may view the holidays as a reminder of what’s been lost. And our culture’s insistence that we be cheery and celebrate out loud doesn’t help to ease the pain.
As we approach the holidays, keep in mind that others may not feel the holiday spirit as warmly as you do. And if you experience loneliness this time of year, remember that help is out there, and that there are actions you can take to make it through the winter months.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
It’s easy to forget your own basic needs when depression hits. But the importance of a good night’s sleep cannot be overlooked, as well as a wholesome diet and regular exercise. Be mindful of your alcohol intake as well over the holidays, especially if you are experiencing feelings of loneliness. Regardless of how you’re feeling emotionally, neglecting your body will only yield negative results.
STEER CLEAR OF SOCIAL MEDIA
It may seem like a painless way to connect with friends and family over long distances, but studies have shown that too much social media isn’t necessarily a good thing. In fact, the photos of friends ringing in the holidays can be a visual reminder of the pain you’re experiencing. Instead of passively watching others have a good time, unplug the computer and step out into the world.
TAKE PROACTIVE STEPS TO SOCIALIZE
Rather than waiting for invitations to holiday gatherings to appear, take matters into your own hands and reach out to others ahead of time. Be specific. Instead of vague requests to spend time together, suggest activities at specific dates and places. The holidays are a hectic time for many people, so getting something on the calendar early may be your best bet for seeing a friendly face.
HELP OTHERS IN NEED
If celebrating feels beyond your grasp, keep in mind that there are plenty of others hurting during the holidays – and they could use your help. Retirement homes, orphanages and hospitals are full of lonely people in need of a friendly face or warm conversation, and it’s safe to say your company would be more than welcome. If you’re in need of specific ideas, several sites help point volunteers in the right direction during the holidays.
David Lowenstein, Ph.D. is a Psychologist and the Clinical Director of Lowenstein & Associates, Inc. in Columbus, Ohio. In addition to providing therapeutic services to individuals and families, he offers training and consultation to numerous associations, schools and agencies around the country. Additionally, he is a frequent radio and TV guest and a resource and contributing writer for numerous newspapers and magazines nationwide. Contact Dr. David Lowenstein at 691 South Fifth Street Columbus, OH 43206 or by phone at 614.443.6155 or 614.444.0432.
