The holidays are generally considered to be a time of joy and happiness. Unfortunately, that’s not the case for everyone. According to the American Psychological Association, 41% of U.S. adults report increased stress between November and January, and 43% say that stress interferes with their ability to enjoy the holidays. From time constraints and family pressures to grief, loneliness, and dark days, there can be many obstacles to overcome. Let’s take a closer look at some of them.
Guarding your time
Many people have unrealistic expectations of what the holidays should be, and that often leads to too many commitments. There’s a temptation to do everything and to make each and every event perfect. But that only creates additional stress and burnout.
Instead, prioritize what’s important to you (and your family), and don’t be afraid to say no when necessary. That means you don’t have to bake homemade cookies for your child’s classroom party. It’s okay to buy a store-bought alternative. The same is true of attending every party and event. If a particular event creates additional stress, maybe because you’re already overbooked, it’s okay to politely decline the invite. In the end, focus on what’s important to you, which may be quiet time at home with family or friends.
Coping with grief
For many, the holidays stir up memories of the past and certain loved ones who may no longer be around. Similarly, you may be dealing with a change in circumstances, which frequently happens when your children grow up and adopt their own holiday traditions. It’s easy to pine for something that you may perceive as an ideal past, but that’s probably not in your best interest.
Take a different approach. Adopt some new traditions and set realistic expectations for how you will celebrate the holidays. If you’re struggling with grief and loss, surround yourself with friends and family members who will support you. At the same time, consider paying tribute to loved ones you’ve lost by remembering the special times you spent together.
Combating loneliness
It’s possible to feel an increased sense of loneliness during the holidays. This is especially true if you live alone and are unable to connect with loved ones. Older individuals in particular may not have a strong support system nearby. And if you’re someone who struggles with anxiety or depression, it may be difficult to make new friends who can help fill the void in your life.
To help overcome the loneliness, look for volunteer opportunities that naturally connect you with others and provide a sense of fulfillment. Reach out to friends, both in person and virtually, and think about hosting a small gathering of your own. If you can’t get together in person — or you simply choose not to — consider scheduling a phone call or video chat with a loved one who lives far away. Above all, remember to prioritize your health and well-being. Get plenty of sleep, eat right, exercise, and don’t neglect your personal hygiene.
Getting more sunshine
The holidays may be merry and bright, but December days are anything but. If you live in the northern hemisphere, the lack of sunlight during the winter months can make you feel depressed. According to Mental Health America, about 5% of U.S. adults experience seasonal affective disorder (SAD), which is a more severe form of the winter blues that typically lasts for about 40% of the year.
Whenever possible, spend time outdoors, especially on sunny days. Try adjusting your schedule so you can get outside in the middle of the day when there’s more light. Even if it’s cold, bundle up and embrace the natural environment. Installing brighter lights in your home may also help. Even candles and holiday lighting can help combat the darkness. And when you can’t get outside, look for ways to make this time of year special by engaging in indoor activities you enjoy.
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Dr. David Lowenstein is a Columbus, Ohio-based psychologist with more than 35 years of experience. He conducts individual, family, and group therapy sessions in his German Village office and also via telehealth. Dr. Lowenstein is also available for expert forensic testimony, and for educational workshops and presentations. He is frequently called upon as an expert source for print, radio, and broadcast media. Contact Dr. Lowenstein at Lowenstein & Associates, 691 South Fifth Street, Columbus, Ohio, 43206, or call 614.443.6155 or 614.444.0432.
