Now that everyone is back in school and schedules are in full swing, it’s time to really pay attention to your teen’s stress level. While children and teens cannot escape the stress and pressures that come with living in today’s society, they can learn how to cope. Here’s how parents can help:

• Teach your teen how to solve problems. He not only needs to identify the problem, but he also needs to learn how to create possible solutions and the pros and cons of those solutions. Perhaps most important, he must learn how to select the best choice.
• Talk with your teen. Set aside a special time to find out what’s happening in his life. Be honest and open with your teen. Talk about the family’s goals and discuss difficulties—without burdening him with your problems.
• Compliment your teen with he does well. And don’t forget the hugs and kisses.
• Make sure your teen has enough time to relax. Teach him that exercise—playing ball, skating, swimming, running, walking, biking—is a form of relaxation.
• Be supportive. Mutual respect and shared values help during periods of stress. Your teen may need to let off some steam, but he will benefit greatly from seeing how you successfully cope with stress.
• Role play through a stressful situation with your teen. Help him to figure out a constructive way to deal with stress.
• Use humor to buffer bad feelings and situations. When a child learns to use humor in his life, it helps to keep things in perspective.
• Avoid the temptation to overload your teen with too many after-school activities and responsibilities. It’s simply not necessary to enroll your teen in every class that comes along, and don’t expect him to be first in everything.
• Be careful not to pass your stress along to your teen. This is especially critical during exceptionally stressful times.
• Set a good example for your teen. You can do this best by exercising self-control and coping skills. Encourage cooperation rather than competition.
• Seek professional help when problems appear to be beyond your ability.